In case anyone is interested, the much shorter coming-out missive I sent to my friends not involved with the person I had a falling out with follows:
Hey [greeting varied],
I almost want to apologize in advance, because this is going to be a weird one
I just want to put everyone on notice that I am no longer identifying as [gender assigned at birth]; my preferred pronoun is they/them/their. I’ve written about this, and some related issues here:
[in the original, I included a link to the related LJ post. You can read it on this blog here]
Hopefully if you read through this (and the comment section, where I think some things get more clarified) it will make some kind of sense to you. And you can feel free to ask me any questions if you want to understand it better.