Blog Notes, this time with a Genderqueer 101

So, y’all may (or may not) have noticed that for quite a while now, I’ve been lucky to manage to produce a single post per month. Basically, I’d arranged my life in such a way that left with very little free time that I spend just with myself, to the point that despite finishing my master’s degree back in December, I have applied for a grand total of less than a half a dozen jobs.

Anyway, I decided to fix that. I’m cutting back to a four-day work week, with longer days so as to maintain my hours/income, just so that I will have an actual large chunk of time in the middle of the week to spend quality time at my computer. This means that you can except something closer to a regular weekly post from me going forward!

In the meantime, I’ve also done some actual writing this week. A very long time ago, I declared an intention to produce a Genderqueer FAQ, even going so far as to solicit questions people would like answered in such a document. I have, however, failed to deliver on that promise.

In fact, I’ve tried many a time to dive into writing the FAQ, but to no avail. The problem I have is that many of the questions that need to be answered are inherently cissexist (whether explicitly or otherwise) – questions along the lines of “But you have a penis/vagina, so doesn’t that mean you’re a man/woman?” – and I find myself unable to write answers to these kinds of questions without becoming extremely snarky about it.

And while I’m sure many of you might find my snark cathartic, it wasn’t in keeping with the original intent of the FAQ, which was actually to help cis folks be more aware of and sensitive to gender variant identities.

So, I switched tacks, and you will now see a link at the top of this blog to a Genderqueer 101, which deals solely with the question of what to do when someone you now has just come out to you as genderqueer. I’d appreciate any input/feedback on it!

Thanks all!


  1. I have real problems figuring out how to answer questions of that sort without extreme levels snark too. Somehow I have to sort out answers that don’t make people feel stupid and/or mean. Snark is hilarious fun but it isn’t going to accomplish what I want to accomplish.

  2. I read the 101, and I have to say– I’m impressed by the lack of snark. I would not have been so nice. WAY TO GO!

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