[In the Gender Perspectives series, I hope to curate writing by people with a wide variety of gender identities and experiences, talking about their gender, what it means to them personally, and what it means for the ways in which they move through and interact with the world. Basically, this is where I point out that I’m not the only person in the world who has complex thoughts about gender, and that there as many ways to be Trans* and/or genderqueer as there are to be cisgender (and yes, there are many different ways to be cisgender). Check out the rest of the series.]
- The author of It Doesn’t Have to Be This Way talks about how he doesn’t really know what it means to be a man, or what it means to say that he is one
Until I was 26, I had picked up on very few clues that my gender was anything other than that of a cis woman
So, even though it turns out that I am a man, is it fair to say that I know what it’s like to be a woman? What does such a statement even mean? What, then, of the fact that I feel like I’m only just beginning to learn about what it’s like to be a man? What does that even mean?
Welcome to my brain.
- Mia at Gender Drift contemplates whether her experience of gender would be different had she been assigned a different gender at birth
So let’s imagine now that this other universe exists and there’s a me that was born female. We’ll call her Alter-Mia because that’s wonderfully comic-booky. Would she be blissfully unaware of all gender dysphoria? I don’t know.
Y’see, although I identify as a transgender woman, truthfully it’s a bit more complicated than that. I see myself as genderqueer, on the female side of my plucky and faithful ruler of gender, but nudged towards the middle somewhat. So would Alter-Mia be genderqueer too? Would she perceive her personality and interests and come to the conclusion that she has some sort of masculine edge to them? Or would such interests be dismissed as playfully tomboy-ish and never cause any deeper thought? Would she feel gender dysphoria?
- PlainT from Queering the Nerd discusses their experiences of gender fluidity
There are things I am consistent about; e.g. my love for nature… No matter the rest, I will always seek out nature, and it’s always the theme I go back to.
And then there are things that waver. My external representation of self is still adrift and has not anchored, briefly docking in one place or another but never calling it home. My external representation might never stay put.
I love masculinity in all its forms, and I love femininity in all its forms. The duality of human experience (and the spectrum between the extremes, as well as outside of them) enriches society. Sometimes, though, the question isn’t “what do I WANT to embody?”; it’s “what CAN I embody?” or, “what DO I embody?”
- Clementine Morrigan talks about their love/hate relationship with gender, and their own queer gender identity
My pronouns are she/her or they/them and on rare occasions when I’m in femme boy mode, it’s he/him. Coming out as genderqueer feels like a sigh of relief because it means I no longer have to section off aspects of who I am. I can be all of it.