Do you ever have a moment where two completely unrelated things in your suddenly collide in your brain and make you see something you
hadn’t before? Yeah, that happened to me last week.
I was talking to a friend about hormonal birth control, which I’ve been on in various (though all pill) forms for the last decade, with one exception. I went off the pill for about three or four months a couple of years ago, basically just because I had been on it for so long I had no sense of what my base-line might even be if I wanted to judge whether it was having any impact on me (beyond, like, preventing ovulation etc.)
The things I was watching out for included:
- changes in libido, and also in my physical sexual responses
- changes in who I found attractive (because apparently this can change drastically?)
- general changes in mood, depression symptoms, etc.
Long story short, there was no noticeable impact on any of things for me off the pill vs. on it, and so I went back on and have continued on my merry way ever since.
But I was specifically asked the other day about whether it had an impact on my experience of attraction toward other people, because the person I was talking had found it completely changed the way they had felt about their partner at the time, I think?
It wasn’t until quite a bit later that I realized that it is seriously possible that the fact that the pill doesn’t affect me in this way may be related to me being demisexual? Because I very much get the sense that the thing the pill can change are what features cause primary sexual attraction to happen for a person, and since I don’t experience primary sexual attraction in the first place, my experience of it didn’t change.
Like, whoa. Of course.