This post is part of my participation in the 30-day genderqueer challenge, which I have modified to a weekly exercise.
Today’s question: Name some queer heroes, influences, or crushes
Oh my! In no particular order:
Specifically, Joey Comeau’s writing. Extra specifically, the way he writes about sex (in the novels Lockpick Pornography and We’ve All Got It Coming, as well as his collection of erotica, The Girl Who Couldn’t Come. It is fabulously queer and gender-fucking and feels so validating, like someone got in my head. When I talk circles around the ways in which I like to dismantle scripts in sex, and make vague-hand-wavey claims about how it is possible to have sex that looks normative but have it still be queer as fuck anyway because of the people involved, and their relationships to each other and understanding of what’s happening when they fuck, this is what I’m talking about. And Comeau’s work is one of the things that reassures that I am not delusional to think that such a thing exists.
Alok Vaid-Menon and Janani Balasubramanian
(a.k.a Darkmatter) God I love these folks’ work. It is beautiful and vulnerable and courageous. They are both beautiful and vulnerable and courageous, and I love them for it.
Rae just makes the most gorgeousest music, ok? And I love the ways in which they’ve contributed to non-binary visibility.
Ivan writes and tells the gorgeousest stories. And I aspire to the calm grace and generosity with which they respond to people who misgender them, and the like. I want to grow up to be more like Ivan in the ways that they are at peace with themself in some ways, I think.
Another one for the “makes gorgeous, ethereal music that gets inside my heart and perfectly expresses what life can feel like sometimes” books, along with Rae Spoon.