This post is part of my participation in the 30-day genderqueer challenge, which I have modified to a weekly exercise.
Today’s prompt: What is your sexual and romantic orientations? Are they affected by your gender?
LOL, so I literally wrote about this already, when I was hosting the Carnival of Aces back in March.
I am demisexual and queer (which applies to both my sexual and romantic orientations), which is to say that I can be sexually or romantically attracted to folks of any gender (queer), but I only experience sexual attraction after forming emotional bonds with someone (demisexual).
(Also can I just say how pleased I am that I got coincidentally prompted to write about this on Bisexuality Visibility Day? My queerness falls under the bi umbrella, because I am into people of more than one gender!)
My gender is somewhat fluid but always non-binary.
There is definitely a strong relationship between these facets of who I am and how I operate in the world, though I don’t think I will ever be able to distinguish which aspects affecting which other ones. I am certain that being on the asexual spectrum has something to do with the discomfort I feel at being sexualized, which in turn has something to do with my discomfort at being gendered as a woman, but that’s not ultimately what makes me non-binary.
That’s all I have to say about it today, but you should definitely read my Carnival of Aces submission (linked above) if you want to know more.
I have a friend on FB who has just discovered she is demisexual , and i told her i follow a person on wp who is demisexual, non binary, and genderqueer sorry if i got any of that wrong , so i private pm’d her and gave her the link to your site here , i hope you don’t mind .
I don’t mind at all – I love it when people share my writing, so thank you so much!
awesomes thank you :)