Welcome to another episode of the Shit Cis People Say Alphabet! Today:
M is for “Making it up”
This week’s instalment is related to a previous week, F is for “fake genders”, and everything I said there applies, but this week I want to focus on the ways in which cis people’s perceptions of trans people’s identities and experiences as fake or made-up also effects binary trans people (by which I mean, trans men and women) as well as non-binary people.
For some reason, a lot of cis people are attached to the idea that trans people are just making this whole trans thing up, somehow. Like we’re pulling some sort of very elaborate prank on the world, or something?
And, honestly, I have very little to say to this idea, other than:
Why would anyone do that?
Why would someone who is actually a man and feels that way and believes it decide to make up a story about how he’s actually known his whole life that he was really meant to be a woman?
Why would he persist in this elaborate lie when faced with the intense bigotry and threat of violence inherent in that identity?
Why would he (potentially) face up against intense medical and psychological scrutiny and jump through years worth of hoops in order to undergo intense, invasive, and at least partially irreversible medical interventions to support this apparently totally made-up fantasy?
No really, why?
Even if you really, really refuse to listen to every trans person in the entire world when we tell you we aren’t making it up, surely you can agree that the simplest explanation for trans people’s efforts toward recognition and transition is that this shit is real, and it is important to us. Let Occam’s razor be your guide, if nothing else will do.