Best of Valprehension

New to Valprehension? Get a sense of what this blog is all about with some of the best stuff I have to offer. Posts from blog series are generally excluded from this list, so consider hopping on over to check those out too!


All-Stars: All-Time Most Read Posts


If you’re into me, then you’re not straight: orientations and attractions to non-binary people

Genderqueer/Non-Binary 101

Is it misgendering to call a binary-identified person ‘they’?

Recognizing Demisexuality


Conversation Starters: Most Commented-On Posts
[Posts featured as most-read were not considered for this list]

Shit Cis People Say: C is for ‘Cis is a slur’

Polyamory and Jealousy: we’re having the wrong conversations

On inclusive and exclusive spaces, and why actively cultivating ‘safe’ exclusionary spaces is vital

Pregnant people are people too

What’s wrong with heteronormativity anyway?


Hall of Fame: Guest posts! Because I love my guest bloggers

Stranger on the train

Sex Vs. Rape Vs. Power

An open letter to men who date women


Kasey’s favourite posts, by topic:

Gender, Genderqueerness, Trans-ness
Brief thought: Gender identity and self-doubt
A transgender double-bind
Who really has gender issues?
Things I tell myself upon being misgendered
“Who cares if you’re genderqueer?”
I don’t know why I identify as genderqueer. I just know that I do
An impossible balancing act

What to do now that you’re aware of your privilege(s)
“Not All Men!”: Redirecting defensive energy

Abuse messes with your brain
Remembering abuse
Writing about abuse, thinking about abuse
Every now and then, something new shakes loose

Words Mean Things, Words Do Things
Grammar is important, but not in the way you think
Identity and Labels part 1: Marginalized Identities
Can we please stop calling for a single, ‘standard’ non-binary pronoun?

Social Justice Pot-Pourri
Forward Thinking: How should we punish people for moral failures?
“Natural consequences”, and drinking while female
On ‘over-reactions’
Brief thought: stereotypes
The conflation of virtue and weakness
What I’m talking about when I talk about being triggered
‘Consent is sexy’ is an insidious message
Communities are better than community

Personal stories and terrible poetry
Love and silliness
So how’s life?
Things I tell myself upon being misgendered
Sweet Everythings
Prose poetry